Setting goals for your lifestlye

Hey you! Welcome to this special post in celebration of Bloggers week 2017. This is the last post of the week and I am really happy to be given the opportunity to write about this particular topic. During the week, different bloggers talked about how you can build a good lifestyle from their different perspectives through topics that describe clearly some aspects you need to have a good lifestyle. This post is meant to make you realize that you can’t build a good lifestyle without being able to set goals.

Going through life without a goal is like you going on a journey without a destination. Yes, your lifestyle can be healthy, fashionably awesome, filled with relationships, very artistic but without the ability to set goals you are just going down a path without a destination. I am here to help you figure out how to set goals and reach them effectively. As you already know, 2017 is coming to an end tomorrow and a lot of people have new year resolutions also known as goals for the new year. Sincerely, most people that have new year resolutions don’t end up fulfilling it and I am actually part of those under the category of “most people”. Every year I make new year resolutions, out of 20 I only fulfill like 3.😂 That’s why we have to talk about “How to know your goal is a goal”. Your goal is a goal when it:

  • It Motivates you: This means that the goal you are setting is important to you and that there is a great value in achieving them.
  • It is attainable: This is making sure that the goal you are setting is attainable. An unattainable is also called an unrealistic goal. When you set a goal that you cant reach you are just basically wasting your time.
  • It is relevant: Your goals should be relevant to the direction you want your life and career to take.
  • It is time-bound: Your goal must have a deadline. When working with a deadline, it allows you achieve that goal much quicker.
  • It is smart: For your goal to be powerful, they should be SMART

If your goal is not any of the things listed above, is it really a goal?. I have to admit that reaching goals that you set is not easy at all. There are a lot of goals I set for my self a long time ago that I haven’t reached but as time went on I learned how to stick with a goal without losing interest or forgetting about the goal and I want to share these little tips with you hope it can help:

  • Ask yourself how committed you are: How committed are you to a goal, are you the type of person that sets a goal today and tomorrow just forgets about it. A goal needs a commitment to be achieved.
  • Devote the necessary time: You should schedule a particular time every day that is reserved for your goal and this allows you to achieve your goal step by step.
  • stay motivated and keep making progress even when you aren’t: When you set a goal it is going to be challenging but that doesn’t mean that when it gets hard you should lose motivation or give up. STAY MOTIVATED!!
  • Plan of obstacles: Achieving the most difficult goals usually means overcoming many challenging obstacles. When you take your time to think about what obstacle might stand in the way of achieving your goal you can be prepared beforehand. Although they are some obstacles that can come your way that you won’t expect but don’t worry you will pull through.

The last point up there is really important. It is something you will definitely encounter during the fulfillment of a goal because nothing in life comes easy. That’s why when obstacles come you have to be ready to do the necessary things to overcome such obstacles. One important thing I want you to know when you are setting goals is that “Make sure your goals are realistic”. A lot of people set unrealistic goals (i used to be one of them) and they ended up wasting their time trying to achieve a goal that is not achievable. I am ending this post with this quote:

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Once you have the aspects of building a good lifestyle (health, relationships, fashion, inspiration) you are complete without these things your lifestyle is missing a few things. I guess that’s the end of Bloggers week 2017 edition. I hope we have given you enough tips that can help you build your lifestyle.

Thank you so much for reading and tuning in every day. Have a lit new year ✨

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People and Things you should let go of before the new year.

It’s hard to believe that we are close to the last day in 2017. You may have gone through some major hurts or disappointments this past year. Now it is the time to take a deep breath, as this time beckons reflection on the emotional or physical pain or the regrets we had over the last year.We need a positive view of the future as we look forward. Yesterday will keep you hung up. While you’re stuck, you never see any happiness or progress.

Things you should let go of:

  1. Let go of needing everyone to like you.
  2. Let go of people who drain you.
  3. Let go of Self-hate.
  4. Let go of doubting yourself.
  5. Let of go of your money woes (Being broke basically).
  6. Let go of regrets.
  7. Let go of negativity.
  8. Let go of anger.
  9. Let go of relationships that bring you down.
  10. Let go of blaming others.

People you should let go:

  1. People who make your life more stressful.
  2. People who use you.
  3. People who don’t respect you.
  4. People who always hurt you.
  5. People who lie to you a lot.
  6. People who smile to your face and then insult you behind your back.
  7. people who don’t care about you, but love to pretend they do.
  8. People who drag you back into your old lifestyle.
  9. People who hold you back.
  10. People who gossip a lot.

These people drive you crazy because their behaviors are so irrational. Make no mistake about it their behavior truly goes against reason, so why do you allow yourself to respond to them emotionally and get sucked into the mix?

In this new year try your best to distance yourself from them emotionally, also try to let go of the things that hinder you. Thank you so much for reading my posts this year and I know in the new year it’s going to be bigger and better.

Happy New Year in advance!!!

10 Tips For Overcoming Fear

Getting through fear is a skill that anyone can learn.

The problem is that most people cling to their fears because it’s part of who they are. If you aren’t ready to face your fears, you probably won’t transcend them. And there’s nothing wrong in that. Everything happens in its own time. If you’re reading this post though, I’m pretty sure that you’re ready to overcome fear. To be very honest fear is your only competitor.

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Here are my tips for overcoming fear:

  1. Do something. Anything. (Fear feeds on in action)
  2. Make a decision, let go of the belief that you can’t make a choice until you are certain of the outcome. (Fear feeds on indecision)
  3. Imagine the very worst thing that could happen and decide what you’d do if it did happen. (fear feeds on the unknown)
  4. Imagine the very best thing that could happen and how you’d feel if it did happen. (fear feeds on feelings of impossibility)
  5. Say, “Anything is possible”, instead of “This is not possible”. (Fear feeds on feelings of impossibility)
  6. Say,”I can” and “Why not?” instead of “I cannot”. (Fear feeds on negativity)
  7. Look for truth instead of hiding from facts. (fear feeds on lies)
  8. Embrace mistakes instead of pretending that you won’t make any. (Fear feeds on perfectionism)
  9. Take one step today instead of waiting to run a marathon tomorrow. (Fear feeds on waiting for the right time)
  10. Finally, PRAYER is key to overcoming fear. Pray to God to help you to overcome. (Fear is no match for God)

Well, these are the tips for overcoming fear and Don’t forget that faith is the antidote for the disease named Fear.

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MY THOUGHTS

In this life, I have come to realize the true importance of thoughts. Every day we imagine and think about things and ideas although some things we imagine are just weird and uncalled for. A normal human being has as many thoughts as required in a day and it differs from the thought of another person, my thoughts are different from yours but it’s our job to combine our thoughts into something exceptional and creative. Most of us have random thoughts and opinions about things that happen and take place around us either by a person or a natural element. I am at the stage of my life where I have realized that all action result from thoughts, so it is thoughts that matter, never suppresses a generous thought, every thought we have is creating our future and that a man is a product of what he thinks and what he thinks he becomes. This is exactly why I created this blog, to share thoughts that I have about what goes on in my life every day and as someone on said to me “change your thoughts and you can change the world”.

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Being single (For guys)

Good day, and welcome to Lamina’s Thoughts. Hello, I’m David Cromwell from Thoughts of Cromwell. For those of us who haven’t heard of my blog, it’s a home of poetry, art and life advice, you’d love it. So Precious and I decided to talk about a topic that we were sure you’d love….. It’s on being single, so all you single pickles out there might want to stick around for this one, I’m going to be giving my side of this topic that is, I’ll be giving a guy’s angle of being single. How we feel, letting you know it’s ups and downs, overall I’ll be teaching you guys how to be single. And for ladies out there, you could use this as a guide to know what to search for when you’re looking to pick one out of the single guy’s squad. And the next post would be on my blog, as Precious be giving a girl’s angle on being single. One thing is for sure, you’d want to stick around for this series of posts.

So its time for guys. To us, single guys, being single is something we could write a book about. We sure know that feeling, telling jokes to our friends we wish we could tell a girl, not any girl, our girl. We all have that picture of a female resting her head on your shoulders or hearing about how girls drive other guys crazy and you envying that tiredness that those guys complain about(funny right?). Wanting to hold hands with someone, wishing for someone you could be weak in front of, and then wishing for someone you could seem like Superman too ( don’t blame us, our minds are complicated). Wanting to have one face you just look at and smile cause she melts your heart every time, and this one fills you with pride cause you actually got the girl. And let’s not forget the single guy’s ultimate wish, that Miss perfect could just appear and take all the stress away, someone you could show off to your friends and girls that said no to you and be like “heh! in your face” and so on.. These are some of the numerous feelings we get from single guys… Some of us were reading this and thinking “Men, that’s me right there”. Yeah, don’t worry I get you but this is not what this post is about. It’s not to let you feel bad about being single, it’s to let you see the golden opportunity you have that you haven’t noticed all this while.

Let me give a personal experience, something you can all relate to (besides who doesn’t like a good story). With this story at intervals, I’ll be pointing out things that we single guys do, that we shouldn’t and some things we should. So I’ve been single for a while, should be about 2 years now since a girl has worn the label of “David Cromwell’s Girlfriend” but throughout this period I’ve been inclined to multitudes of girls😂😂 like I’m not even joking. Which brings me to the first mistake we make as single guys… And that is “We are never truly single”, some of us never have this period of clarity where we have no one on our minds, just us, we are always trying to impress someone, trying to fill up the voids of our loneliness with someone, so we are never single, to begin with. So the question is “Are you truly single?”. Being single should be a period to be you, single means one, not 10 people on one person’s mind, just one.. Have you been one?
Let my story roll on. So, for the past 2 years, it’s been this girl to another just because I wanted to fill up a void. And that brings me to my next lesson, that is, no one is a void filler. The most important part of being single many people miss is that it’s the chance you get to learn to fill your voids, by yourself, alone! No one could do that for you. It’s when you learn to deal with your insecurities, your loneliness, where you learn how to be the company you need. Come to think of it, if you can’t keep yourself company, how would you ever be good at keeping someone else company.
But let my story roll on, I later met the perfect one but she wasn’t the “perfect one”😂. What am I trying to say, over time, being single let me discover myself, some would I grew, I feel I just found out more of myself. And then I realized the perfect one wasn’t the perfect one I imagined at the beginning. I thought looks mattered so much but as I grew I realized all I really needed was her soul. I don’t mean to sound like the grim reaper😂😂 but to me, anyone could be the gifted beauty but your soul is what you work for. So I found that person, my current best friend, some say it spells danger, well we’ll find out in the future.

But overall, this post is to let you see that being single is a blessing in disguise. You’ve been gifted time, the currency of life, to learn to discover you, the most important person in your life. You’ve been given the opportunity to learn to secure your insecurities, learn how to be the best company, to really grow as an individual. .So stop wasting time feeling alone and trying to fill up your void and start “Me 101”. In “Me 101”, you’re the lecturer and student, discover yourself and love everything you find. And when you learn to love yourself, then and then alone can you learn to love someone else.

I hope you gained from this post. If you have a comment, the comment box is and will always be yours. And for those us who liked this post and want to hear more from this stranger😂, click here to get to my blog, there’s more where this came from. And to read the female part of this post, just click here to read it on my blog.
Have a beautiful day.

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Being a person of integrity

Hey everyone! Welcome to my blog, if this is your first time here a very special welcome to you and if this isn’t your first time, Thank you for coming back. Today, I am going to talk about the concept of being a person of integrity. In the world we live in today being a person of integrity is very hard because there are so many things that make us go against our beliefs and values but we can overcome. When you choose to be a person of integrity there are a lot of benefits. But first let’s take a look at what integrity means:

Integrity is choosing your thoughts and actions based on values rather than personal gain

Integrity is making sure that the things you say and the things you do are in alignment.

Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.

I attended a fellowship recently and the topic was integrity. The preacher talked about the qualities of a person with integrity, as I listened I started to ask myself a few questions to see If I was a truly a person of integrity and I realized that I was actually lacking some major qualities. Here are some questions I asked myself and I think you should ask yourself too:

  • Are you honest?
  • Are you dependable?
  • Are you trustworthy in every area of your life?
  • Are you respectful?
  • Do you do the right thing all the time?
  • Do you keep your word?

When I answered this questions in my head, I realized that my integrity game was extremely low. Since then I have tried to adopt the qualities in my life. You are probably wondering what these qualities I am talking about are. Well take a look at some them:

  • Being Positive always.
  • Living for others ahead of yourself.
  • Standing for what is right always.
  • Thinking before you act.
  • Keeping your word.
  • Treating others with respect.
  • Telling the truth always without compromise.

Sincerely, being a person of integrity doesn’t mean that you have to be perfect, it means that you should be Authentic. Wisdom is knowing the right path to take and integrity is taking it. I know it is not easy but you should try your best to be a person of integrity. I am ending this post with this:

Speak with Honesty

Think with sincerity

Act with Integrity

Thank you for reading! Don’t forget to share, Subscribe and drop your comment below. Most importantly don’t forget to be a person of integrity. Bye 👋

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10 Friends most people have

Hey everyone! Welcome to my blog. Today we are going to be taking a look at a few friends I think most people have. Friends are people you select based on shared values, experiences, interests and beliefs. There are some people who are your friends that you didn’t even select it just happened. It’s important to surround yourself with friends who know the whole you when you maintain friendships from different stages of your life, you are able to express more of your real self.

  • The friend you’ve known longer than you’ve known yourself (The Best friend): This is a friend you can never form for. They know you better than you know yourself and accept you unconditionally no matter what.
  • The emotional friend: This is the kind of friend that is very expressive, very open about their feelings and they always cry easily (for no specific reason). The kind of friend you can’t watch the fault in our stars with and they always encourage you to be emotional too.
  • The intelligent one: This is the friend that knows a lot about everything which is really nice but sometimes they make you feel dumb. But it’s good to have an intelligent friend around to inspire you to learn more.
  • The Hungry friend: If I am being honest I am this friend. Any activity I want to do with friends I always take food along even if it is to the Gym loll. But what can I say Food is life.
  • The broke friend: This particular friend is always broke every time you see them and you have to accept that you are their personal bank. Thankfully they always pay you back, even if it is months afterward.
  • The Funny friend there is nothing nicer than a friend that makes you laugh every time even when you are down. They always bring a joke out of everything (I am definitely this friend). Another good thing about a friend with a great sense of humor is that they always have warmth and compassion to spare.
  • The loyal friend: This kind of friend is the best! This is the friend that you can trust with everything like your deepest secret and she won’t share it with anybody. They always have your back no matter the situation you are in.
  • The Honest friend: This is a very important friend you should have. A friend that can tell you the truth at all times. Like when you ask if what you are doing is right or wrong, an honest friend will tell you the truth. This is the kind of friend that challenges you in all areas in other for you to educate yourself more.
  • The Fun friend: This is the friend that introduces new ideas and activities that can lead to having fun. This is the kind of friend that can convince someone that can’t swim to enter the swimming pool just to have fun.
  • The Inspiring Friend: This is a friend you should definitely have, they inspire you to do more. I have a friend like this, her pep talks make me feel more hopeful about myself and my future. She makes me more eager to achieve my goals or just keep tackling me every day.

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Well, these are the friends that I think most people have. I am ending this post with this:

Everyone can’t be your friend. Just because they hang around you dosen’t mean that they are your friends. People pretend well. At the end of the day, real situations expose fake people, so pay attention.

what kind of friend are you? You can drop your comments below. Thank you for reading!

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Lessons that people learn too late in life

Hey, you! Welcome to my blog. Today, I am going to be talking about lessons that people often learn too late in life, both good and bad. Lessons are full of wisdom because they often have to be learned the hard way. It’s best to learn these things sooner than later. Take a look at 6 lessons that people learn too late in life:

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  • Physical appearance, height, and complexion don’t matter in succeeding, hard work matters a lot. The truth about life is that good thing come to those who work hard and never give up, there is no substitute for hard work. Always remember that nothing worth having comes easy.
  • Time is a great healer and a great killer. You will suffer a lot if you waste time. It is really sad how people waste their time on certain people/things and in the end, they prove that they weren’t even worth a second of it. Stop wasting your time following someone’s idea of the ideal life, Time waits for no man.
  • Not doing hard work and not taking a calculated risk at early stages of your life make your life miserable. Great things never come from your comfort zone, if you want it, go for it. Take a risk. Don’t always play it safe or you’ll die to wonder.
  • Listening to the advice of your parents, relatives, and friends can distract your mind from choosing the right career. I am not saying that you should ignore the advice given to you. All I am trying to say is, when you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying NO to yourself.
  • Never work for money, work for your passion. Make your passion your paycheck! If you are not passionate you are wasting your time. The truth is when you do what you love with passion and not because of money success won’t be far away.
  • Complaining about everything won’t solve your problem, you must take initiative to solve the problem. I think some people enjoy complaining almost as much as they enjoy doing nothing about it. Don’t complain about things you are not ready to change. Solve the problem and stop complaining, it never makes anything better.

These are some lessons that people really learn late, I hope you learned something from this post. Don’t forget that everything happens for a reason, live it, love it and learn from it. I am ending this post with this quote:

Work hard in silence, Let your success be your noise – Frank Ocean

Thank you so much for reading, you can drop your comments below.

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THINGS YOU MUST GIVE UP TO MOVE FORWARD

Hey, you! Welcome to my blog. Today I am going to be talking about things you must give up to move forward in different areas of your life and I am going to be doing that by listing 10 things you should give up. Everyone wants to move forward in life, no one wants to stay in one position forever. Moving forward is something that is really hard for most people because they refuse to let go of or give up what is holding them back and some don’t even know what it is that isn’t allowing to move forward, well if you are that person I am here to help you realize what is. Take a look at the 10 things you must give up to move forward:

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  • Letting the opinion of others control your life: it’s not about what others think, it’s about what you think about yourself that counts. You have to do exactly what is best for you and your life, not what is best for everyone else.
  • The shame of your past failures: The past does not define your future, all that matters is what you do right now. Take a look at this quote:

As you look back at your life, you realize that every time you thought you were rejected from something good, you were actually being re-directed to something better.

  • Being indecisive about what you want: You can never leave where you are until you decide where you would rather be. Make a decision to figure out what you want, and then pursue it passionately because time will not wait for you.
  • Procrastinating on the goals that matter to you: This is one major problem that people have including me. I am always procrastinating like every time but one thing I realized is that there are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist or accept the responsibility when they change.
  • Choosing to do nothing: You don’t get to choose how you are going to die or when. You can only decide how you are going to live, right now. Every day is a new chance to choose.
  • Your need to be right: Aim for success, but never give up your right to be wrong. Because when you do, you will also lose your ability to learn new things and move forward with your life.
  • Running from problems that should be fixed: Stop running! Face these issues, fix the problems, communicate, appreciate, forgive and love the people in your life who deserve it. If you keep running away from problems they will keep coming back.
  • Making excuses rather than decisions: Most long-term failures are the outcome of people who make excuses instead of decisions.
  • Overlooking the positive points in your life: What you see often depends entirely on what you’re looking for. You will have a hard time ever being happy if you aren’t thankful for the good things in your life right now.
  • Not appreciating the present moment: Too often we try to accomplish something big without realizing that the greatest part of life is made up of the little things.

Well, these are 10 things I believe you need to give up I hope you learned something from this post because I did. I am ending this post with this quote:

Starting today, you need to forget what’s gone appreciate what still remains and look forward to what’s coming next.

Thank you so much for reading, you can drop your comments below (This post was inspired by a picture I saw on Pinterest).

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Detoxing Negative People

Hello everyone, Welcome to my Blog. Today I am going to be talking about detoxing negative people from your life, by detoxing I mean letting go of them. Some people can be really negative and sometimes they ask themselves why? , Why am I always negative? You cannot hang out with a negative person and expect to live a positive life it’s not possible. There are different types of negative people but the one that I really dislike is the Chronic Criticizer. They are always criticizing everything you do which is really bad and because of such criticism, you develop the mentality that what you are doing isn’t good enough. There are a Few things I have noticed that Negative people do and they are:

  1. They make you feel bad about yourself.
  2. They add stress and anxiety to your life.
  3. They definitely don’t have your best interests at heart.
  4. They discourage you from doing your best every time.
  5. They take up a lot of time and energy.
  6. THEY ARE BAD FOR YOU! REALLY BAD!

To be honest, if you know that your friend is always being negative about everything you do, What is stopping you from letting them go? Steve Jobs once said

“Don’t let the noise of other peoples opinions drown out your inner voice”

What he said is so true, you can have an idea today and when you decide to share this idea with your friend who happens to be really negative about everything he/she will probably say that your idea is not good enough. Because of that you just give up which is wrong, you can’t let one person’s opinion decide whether your idea is good or not. My advice is that you should free yourself of such a person and you probably wondering how do you do that. Take a look at a few steps you could take to free yourself from negative people:

  1. Realize your own value: Your character is too wonderful to be destroyed by anyone.
  2. Identify the negative people in your life: Ask yourself, Who doesn’t have a positive impact on you?
  3. Mentally prepare yourself: Letting go of them doesn’t mean you hate them; it only means you love yourself.
  4. Shift your focus: Invest time & energy in more positive things instead of letting negative people occupy your mind.
  5. Detoxify yourself: Limit your interaction with them, avoid them, or completely cut them out of your life
  6. Surround yourself with positive people: They will nourish your soul!

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Stay away from negative people they always have a problem with every solution and the less you respond to negative people the more peaceful your life will become.

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